The Loneliness of Grief
Grief is lonely. Mourning the loss of those we love is painful and lonely during normal times. This new normal of shelter-in-place makes grieving even [...]
Making the Holidays Your Own
Happy (?) Holidays. When grieving, the holidays can feel anything but happy. If this time of year makes you feel lonely, disconnected, resentful, overwhelmed and [...]
Loving Yourself Through Grief
Loving yourself through grief, it's necessary. Self-love, self-care, self-compassion, patience and a lot of reframing from I can’t, I’ll never to I can and I [...]
To Love Again?
The choice to open yourself to love again is personal. What feels right one day may not the next. Just know that if you choose to open your heart to another it is not cheating on your spouse or partner. They are gone and nothing can or will change this truth. Not loneliness and not connection.
Sorrow and Joy
Duality. It is most certainly possible to feel two things at once, even sorrow and joy. I was born to a woman who taught me [...]
Shared Grief
The impact of loss is great. The after-effects on a family can be complicated and messy. It is important to be mindful of expectations, approach [...]
Adaptive Coping and Grief
Grief is hard, unpredictable, complicated, and always (on a good day) just below the surface. It is not simply mourning the person but forever the [...]
Secondary Losses
When we think about grief we frequently focus on death itself. Grief is compounded by secondary losses that we often neglect to give credence to. [...]
Managing the Anxiety of Deep Grief
Deep grief is disorienting. The overwhelming uncertainty, disbelief and confusion of trying to accept, integrate and adjust to the new normal of life without your [...]
Tell Them
When your heart is broken and you feel scared and alone reach out, allow others in, connect. Shutting in and shutting down is not the [...]