Making the Holidays Your Own
Happy (?) Holidays. When grieving, the holidays can feel anything but happy. If this time of year makes you feel lonely, disconnected, resentful, overwhelmed and [...]
Reality
Eyes open, mind registers, heart breaks, stomach drops. It is real. It did happen. They are gone. Tears. Nausea. Searing heartache. Reality. Grief sucks. Every [...]
Positive Remembrance and Grief
We know that death is a part of life but this does not make grieving any easier. When someone we care about dies the world [...]
Loving Yourself Through Grief
Loving yourself through grief, it's necessary. Self-love, self-care, self-compassion, patience and a lot of reframing from I can’t, I’ll never to I can and I [...]
Sorrow and Joy
Duality. It is most certainly possible to feel two things at once, even sorrow and joy. I was born to a woman who taught me [...]
Adaptive Coping and Grief
Grief is hard, unpredictable, complicated, and always (on a good day) just below the surface. It is not simply mourning the person but forever the [...]
Secondary Losses
When we think about grief we frequently focus on death itself. Grief is compounded by secondary losses that we often neglect to give credence to. [...]
Managing the Anxiety of Deep Grief
Deep grief is disorienting. The overwhelming uncertainty, disbelief and confusion of trying to accept, integrate and adjust to the new normal of life without your [...]
Tell Them
When your heart is broken and you feel scared and alone reach out, allow others in, connect. Shutting in and shutting down is not the [...]
Remember Them
Remember them. Say their name out loud. Close your eyes, quiet your mind and breathe. Call them to you. Picture them at their best... Their [...]