What does it mean be stuck and how do you get unstuck? When you make the same choices over and over again, have the same thoughts, conversations and struggles without achieving desired change, (contentment, growth, wellness, independence, healthy connections…), you are stuck.
To get unstuck you must first define and visualize what it would look like to be unstuck. Then you must acknowledge behaviors that are keeping you stuck, (your actions, your self-talk, your choices). Notice the word “your.” Stuckness is about you and no one else. Your thoughts and behaviors ultimately impact how you feel about yourself and your life. You must be accountable.
If you are unhappy with your career, your relationships, your weight, or are just feeling stuck in a rut, empower yourself to try something different. Practice self-awareness AND accountability. Self-awareness alone will not lead to change. Regardless of how you have always ___ if it isn’t working it’s time to have the courage to recognize this truth without rationalizing or blaming others. Have the courage to try something different.
Trying something different can feel overwhelming; it’s the the fear of the unknown, the notion of failure. Instead of viewing change through the lens of fear or potential failure try to view change through the lens of faith – in yourself.
The lens of fear perpetuates stuckness:
- Self-sabotaging behaviors
- Catastrophic thinking
- Belief in perfectionism
The Lens of Faith empowers Self-Motivation:
- Positive I-statements: I will try to do this. I can do this. I will do this.
- Gratitude Awareness: I am grateful for the ability to create change in my own life. I am grateful that I can support and encourage myself to try something different.
- Awareness of Effort: Today I will replace self-limiting beliefs with the belief in MY power to create desired and necessary change. Today I will set a small goal and work to achieve it, (I will call the doctor, go for a walk, sign up for an online class, update my resume, make an appointment for marriage counseling, clean out one drawer in my kitchen, make an appointment to meet with a financial planner, make an appointment with a career counselor, etc.).
Trying something different isn’t about success or failure. It is about effort. It is about intentional awareness of who you want to be, the goals you want to accomplish, and how you want to feel in your life.